# OKINAWA RE-ENTRY REFERENCE SHEET

## CORE PRINCIPLES
* **Be Direct:** No small talk or social filler. Say what you mean and get to the point.
* **Practical Support:** Don't talk about helping; just have the supplies ready.
* **Stability:** Stay calm when the outreach or the group gets chaotic.

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## HER BACKGROUND & NEEDS (INFJ)
* **Social Fatigue:** Outreach will drain her. She needs a place where she doesn't have to talk or perform.
    * *Action:* Provide silence in the car. Don't force conversation.
* **Cultural Stress:** She is balancing her Japanese family expectations with her American personality.
    * *Action:* Be the person she can be "American" and direct with when the group is away.
* **Being Noticed:** She values people who remember the details of her life, not just her help with the project.
    * *Action:* Ask about the specific things she was anxious about a year ago.

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## PRACTICAL MOVES
| Situation | What to Say/Do | Why |
| :--- | :--- | :--- |
| **Meeting Again** | "Good to see you. How did [Specific Event] go?" | Proves you actually listened a year ago. |
| **During Outreach** | "I'm getting water, do you want one?" | Offers help without making it a big deal. |
| **Social Mistakes** | "I'm struggling with the local custom here. What's the right move?" | Shows humility and respects her knowledge. |
| **When She's Tired** | "I'll handle the next few people. You take a break." | Recognizes her exhaustion before she has to ask. |

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## 3-MONTH TIMELINE
1.  **Month 1:** Be the reliable guy. Have the tools, the snacks, and the directions ready.
2.  **Month 2:** Bring back the "dumb stories" and the personal connection you had at the restaurant.
3.  **Month 3:** If the vibe is good, tell her you'd like to try a "take two" on a drink or a date.

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## BAG ESSENTIALS
* **Repair:** Sewing kit (needle/thread) and basic tools.
* **First Aid:** Bandages and electrolyte/salt tabs for the heat.
* **Food:** Jerky, nuts, or protein-heavy snacks.
* **Heat:** Cooling wipes or a small fan for the humidity.

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**THE GOAL:**
Be the most observant and reliable person there. If she feels she can relax and be herself around you, you've succeeded.

**Good luck, Spencer.**