OKINAWA RE-ENTRY REFERENCE SHEET

CORE PRINCIPLES

Be Direct: No small talk or social filler. Say what you mean and get to the point.
Practical Support: Don't talk about helping; just have the supplies ready.
Stability: Stay calm when the outreach or the group gets chaotic.

Social Fatigue: Outreach will drain her. She needs a place where she doesn't have to talk or perform.
- Action: Provide silence in the car. Don't force conversation.
Cultural Stress: She is balancing her Japanese family expectations with her American personality.
- Action: Be the person she can be "American" and direct with when the group is away.
Being Noticed: She values people who remember the details of her life, not just her help with the project.
- Action: Ask about the specific things she was anxious about a year ago.

Situation	What to Say/Do	Why
Meeting Again	"Good to see you. How did [Specific Event] go?"	Proves you actually listened a year ago.
During Outreach	"I'm getting water, do you want one?"	Offers help without making it a big deal.
Social Mistakes	"I'm struggling with the local custom here. What's the right move?"	Shows humility and respects her knowledge.
When She's Tired	"I'll handle the next few people. You take a break."	Recognizes her exhaustion before she has to ask.

Month 1: Be the reliable guy. Have the tools, the snacks, and the directions ready.
Month 2: Bring back the "dumb stories" and the personal connection you had at the restaurant.
Month 3: If the vibe is good, tell her you'd like to try a "take two" on a drink or a date.

THE GOAL: Be the most observant and reliable person there. If she feels she can relax and be herself around you, you've succeeded.

Good luck, Spencer.